You're not sure why you feel this way — but you're tired of feeling it.
Psychodynamic therapy for adults who cope on the outside but feel stuck on the inside.
Based in Sidcup and London Bridge.
Online across the UK.
You might recognise this...
You look like you’re coping—but internally feel stuck.
You overthink conversations long after they’ve ended. You doubt yourself, even when things are going well. You notice the same patterns playing out in relationships, but can’t seem to shift them.
You may already be self-aware. But insight alone hasn’t changed how it feels.
Address
Woodside Wellness Rooms
3B Woodside Road,
Sidcup
Kent
DA15 7JF
The Psychosynthesis,
92-94 Tooley Street,
London Bridge, SE1 2TH
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About Me
Bilkan Kilicer
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I'm Bilkan — a psychodynamic counsellor based in Sidcup and London Bridge.
I know how daunting it can feel to look for a therapist. I've been through that process myself, and it was part of what led me to this work. My own experiences showed me how hard it is to make sense of what you're carrying — and how much it matters to find someone who genuinely gets it.
The people I work with are often thoughtful, self-aware, and exhausted by their own patterns. They don't need someone to hand them a toolkit. They need someone to help them understand what's actually going on underneath.
That's the work I'm here for.
I'm a BACP registered psychodynamic counsellor. I work with adults in person in Sidcup and London Bridge, and online across the UK.
How I work
I don't work with quick fixes or surface strategies.
Most people who come to me have already tried to think their way out of how they feel. They understand themselves logically, they just can't seem to change. That's because the patterns driving how we think, feel, and relate to others don't live at the surface. They live deeper — in what we learned early on about who we needed to be to feel safe, loved, or accepted.
That's where we work. Not to blame the past, but to understand it - because that understanding is usually what finally creates room for something to shift.
The things people bring to therapy often look different on the surface. But underneath, there's usually a common thread.
Not feeling good enough, no matter what you do. Relationships that follow the same painful script. Being hard on yourself in ways you can't switch off. Not knowing what you actually want or who you are outside of what others need from you.
Often what's underneath these patterns is relational trauma — not necessarily one defining moment, but years of learning to manage, perform, or disappear in order to feel safe or loved. You may not use that word for it. But if the way you were raised is still quietly shaping how you feel about yourself and how you relate to others, that's exactly what we can work on together.
These aren't separate problems to fix one by one. They're patterns and they usually have roots. That's what we explore together.
My approach
My work is psychodynamic and relational.We explore how past experiences and relationships shape how you relate to yourself and others now—and how these patterns continue to play out in the present.The therapy relationship itself is part of this work, offering a space where these patterns can be understood, not judged.
Who I work
with
Most of the people I work with are 18 plus. They're thoughtful and self-aware — they've often spent a long time trying to figure themselves out. But insight alone hasn't shifted how things feel.
They grew up learning to fit in, keep the peace, or meet others' expectations. It worked for a long time. Now it's showing up in their relationships, their self-worth, and a quiet but persistent feeling that they don't really know who they are when nobody needs anything from them.
They're not in crisis. They're just tired of carrying something they can't quite name.
What can you expect
People often tell me that talking to me doesn't feel like what they expected therapy to feel like.
It's a real conversation. I'll be honest with you, if I notice something, I'll name it. If a pattern is emerging, I'll say it. Gently, but directly.
Over time, clients find that things that felt fixed about themselves turn out not to be. The way they relate to others starts to shift. And they develop a clearer, steadier sense of who they actually are, not who they learned to be.
The Next Steps
Reaching out is often the hardest part.
If you've been thinking about therapy for a while but haven't quite taken the step — that's completely normal. Most people I work with sat with it for some time before getting in touch.
I offer a free 20 minute consultation call. No commitment, no pressure. Just a chance to talk, ask anything you want, and get a sense of whether it feels right.
If it does, we go from there. If it doesn't, that's okay too.
Face to Face Therapy
I offer in-person sessions in a safe, confidential space where we can explore what’s going on for you at your own pace. Sessions last 50 minutes,
Fees:
Individuals
Sidcup £65
London Bridge: £80
Students (with valid ID):
Sidcup £55
London Bridge: £70
Online Therapy
I offer online sessions via Zoom, providing flexibility and comfort from your own space. It’s a convenient way to access support, especially if you have a busy schedule or prefer therapy from home.
Sessions are 50 minutes.
Fees:
£55 for online sessions
£45 for students (with valid ID)
Phone Therapy
Phone sessions offer a flexible and accessible way to receive support, especially if you're more comfortable talking without video or have limited internet access. Sessions are 50 minutes and provide the same level of care and confidentiality as in-person or online therapy.
Fees:
£55 for phone sessions
£45 for students (with valid ID)
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